another one of the things i hate about the whole "gay culture" thing

"we didn't choose to be gay we were born with it"

bullshit. i know some of you might have the predeliction of a gay preference from an early age, perhaps the earliest discernable age (its based on attraction... so you'd know what you were around puberty). part of the problem is people seem to think anaffinity for feminine stuff is a tell tle sign for gayness. its not. you are simply interested in fair things. sex with men is a sexual thing. perhaps you might sexualize men if you are feminine and perhaps identify more with the role of the woman in relationships that you see on tv or perhaps in real life. but the thing is, one does not guarenete the other. one may introduce the other, but thats about it. and so some people say "im born gay." bullshit, i say. i think its perhaps something that MA Ybe programmed in FOR SOME. but i do know that we do have free will, and someone could choose to be gay without perhaps having gayness as their preference at their first known cognifitive moment of sexual maturation. some choose, some start, others grow into it, and perhaps some grow out of it. its fluid, like all living things- biologically based lifeforms change and evolve as they grow, and one so cognitively based such as ours is fueled by choice and thought over many other factors. some may be biologically driven to be gay, others likely are not. certainly for ALL gay people there is no ONE cause.